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Wilfred Deforge

Wilfred Deforge

Tuesday, December 8th, 1970 - Saturday, August 22nd, 2020
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Obituary

Deforge, Wilfred "Wolf":

Passed away on August 22, 2020 at the age of 49.
Loving brother of John and the late Steven.
Dear cousin of Liane, Claude and Terry.
Will be remembered by his close friends, Bev and Ron.
Predeceased by his father, Armand and Francis.

Wolf's family will receive relatives and friends from 1 - 2pm on Friday, August 28, 2020 at the Henry Walser Funeral Home, 507 Frederick Street, Kitchener, 519-749-8467, followed by a procession to Woodland Cemetery for a graveside service.

As expressions of sympathy, donations to the Food Bank of Waterloo Region would be appreciated by the family (cards available at the funeral home).
Visit www.henrywalser.com for Wolf's memorial.
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Service Details

  • Visitation

    Friday, August 28th, 2020 | 1:00pm - 2:00pm
    When
    Friday, August 28th, 2020 1:00pm - 2:00pm
    Location
    Henry Walser Funeral Home Ltd.
    Address
    507 Frederick St.
    Kitchener, ON N2B 2A5
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    Notes
    *Please note that face coverings are required. Non-medical masks, bandannas, paper disposable masks or scarves and cloth can be used. Please keep 2 metres (6 ft) apart. *
  • Service

    Friday, August 28th, 2020 | 2:30pm
    When
    Friday, August 28th, 2020 2:30pm
    Location
    Woodland Cemetery
    Address
    119 Arlington Blvd
    Kitchener, ON N2A 2G8
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Donations are being accepted for: THE FOOD BANK OF WATERLOO REGION.

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Audrey Alfred-Duggan

Posted at 10:45pm
I had the good fortune of getting to know Wilf over the course of the last decade as a community worker in Toronto. I remember being struck by his kindness the first time we met.

Wilf always brought a bright, fresh energy and earnest heart to our community programs. Wilf helped out in our community garden and he playfully called our mindfulness group 'Tea Time' for the fresh herbal teas we would enjoy after silence. In fact he often opted out of the meditation altogether, just joining at the end for the social part where we could talk! He knew best what worked for him...

Wilf was initially reluctant to try his hand at photography for our annual photo show. He explained he had never used a camera in this way before - he delighted in the discovery that focusing his mind to see the world through a camera's lens gave him a welcome break from the weight of stress. Even so, every year it was a struggle to pull him away from the daily grind to come take pictures with me. And every year he was grateful that I had pushed him to do it. He would slow right down to revel in the beautiful and interesting details that surround us but that we don't usually take the time to notice: "Watching the bees in the garden is watching beauty in motion" he said with a giant grin, as though surprised by the poetry of his own words.

His photographs were stunning, and he was amazed at how good they looked framed and enlarged. In his humble way he once questioned if I was *sure* they were his, that I didn't make a mistake. Once reassured, he was pleased to see his work on display and took pride as the compliments rolled in...

Wilf was also very involved in our ongoing Memorial Project, sharing his considerable experience and insight about working through grief. Wilf cared so much for his community and he acutely experienced each & every loss. He said he found comfort in the belief that we keep loved ones alive by holding their memories in our hearts and by sharing their stories - especially funny & silly ones - how they would want to be remembered.

He recited these words for a writing project in June of this year:

It had to do with past experience
It had to do with people from the past
Its not a sad thing
Whoever's reading it can do whatever they want with it
People that have lived here
Everyone
I think about them a lot
I'm glad for those experiences

Wilf wore his giant heart on his sleeve. He always looked out for others, ready to lend a hand or find help if needed. He also learned how to let himself be vulnerable and reach out when he, himself needed help - which I believe was a hard won, life long lesson. He had a way of determinedly seeking out a silver lining to pull himself through hard times and of moving through sadness to arrive on the other side of it somehow motivated to help out and give back. Wilf was an inspiration in his very way of being and I'm grateful for the chance to have shared time with him.

Sending my sincere condolences to his family and friends. Wilf is deeply missed & lovingly remembered 💛
SK

Stephanie krug

Posted at 12:03pm
As a very young lawyer I met the Deforge brothers. They were raising themselves. Life was not easy. When Stevie died at such a young age i would pick up Wolf and Johnny for the inquest in Brantford day after day. Despite the difficult circumstances that time together created a bond. I have always had a soft spot for Wolf and Johnny. So sad to hear that we'll never see Wolfie's smile again.
 
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Rozsa Mate-Barber Posted at 07:54pm

I remember Wolf always talking about you back then. When someone would bring up the topic of lawyers, and which lawyer was the best in town.. and which one wasn't. Lol He really liked you and looked up to you. He really appreciated how you always went above and beyond for him. He was proud to have you represent him and didn’t care who knew it! I heard him always recommending you to his friends. 😊
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Kristi Lemke

Posted at 10:10am
I was very fortunate to get to work with Wilf as his social worker while he was living in Toronto. Despite only knowing each other for three or so years, he easily became one of my favourite people to work with. Wilf was very kind, generous, empathetic and a deep thinker. He also loved animals and I remember how his face would perk up whenever I brought my dog in or someone else had a dog around. Wilf always wanted to make sure everyone else was okay and often would put his own needs aside to care for those around him. No one ever had a bad thing to say about him and he made friends so easily throughout the entire building. Wilf always knew how to make others laugh and bring a smile to anyone's face. He also had the ability to make you feel super special. At the end of my shift, he would always tell me to stay safe and to have a good night and I would usually joke around and tell him to stay out of trouble.

I want to send my condolences to Wilf's family. This loss is immeasurable and no one will ever be able to replicate the energy and love he brought to every single person he knew. I am so grateful to have known such a wonderful person.
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Rozsa Mate

Posted at 09:53pm
I met Wolf when I was a kid! We became really good friends, and hung out, pretty much every day back then! We’d skip school and go to his place to watch soap operas all afternoon! 😆 I know right?? Can you imagine Wolf watching soap operas?? Haha! Yeah, neither could I .. until I saw it with my own eyes! 😂 They were HIS soaps.. not mine! Lol I never watched them until I met him! 😆
Stevie would come home after school and find us there together.. he’d absolutely bug the crap out of us .. making kissing sounds... This went on almost every day! Lol
That was a lifetime ago now! 😔
I also remember trying to teach him how to tell time! That was not so much fun! Lol But It’s funny now, when I think back on it! At the time tho.. he drove me absolutely bay sh** crazy! He was constantly asking me what time it was. I felt really horrible when I told him to figure it out by himself and pointed to the wall clock! That’s when he told me he didn’t know how! 😔
I think we were about 14 or 15 maybe?? I wonder if he ever did figure out how to tell time on an analog clock?? 😔
Then yrs later..we both had our first kid, pretty much around the same time! He’d show up at my apartment door every time he had a dilemma! Which was pretty often at times! Lol I didn’t mind though... I always made time for him! He knew that if he told me something it wouldn’t go any further! I was just happy that he reached out to me, instead of going somewhere and getting in trouble!
We lost touch over the yrs .. but I bet ya, if we had run into each other on the street, it would’ve been like we hadn’t missed a day! I’ve thought about Wolf often, and wondered what he was up to?? I just never knew how to get into contact with him!
R.I.P Wolf .. You’ll always have a piece of my heart! ✌️ ❤️ 🙏 May God bless your soul 😢
 
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Rri Povey Posted at 02:21pm

So good to read your post, Rosa
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